Bullied or being a Bully can comprise of the following actions:
- Fighting, threatening, name-calling, teasing, or excluding someone repeatedly and over time
- An imbalance of power, such as size or popularity
- Physical, social, and emotional harm
- Hurting another person to get something
- Many parents don’t think that bullying is as big a problem as bringing a weapon to school or drug use but its effects can be severe and long lasting.
- Every day, nearly 160,000 children miss school because they are scared of bullying.
- Being Bullied doesn’t only negatively affect its victims, but also the bullies themselves.
Kids who are bullied are more likely to:
- Do poorly in school
- Have low self-esteem
- Be depressed
- Turn to violent behavior to protect themselves or get revenge on their bullies
- Have low self confidence
- Be very shy and withdrawn
- Turn to alcohol and other addictive substance as a coping mechanism
Kids who bully are more likely to
- Do poorly in school
- Smoke and drink alcohol
- Commit crimes in the future
- Become abusive towards their own children and spouses
Tips to help parents and teachers to identify a bully and stop bullying
Teachers and parents of both the bullied and the bullies can play a crucial role in preventing, identifying, and stopping bullying. Creating safe, stress-free environments at home and at school can help prevent the tension and anxiety that can lead to bullying.
Despite how widespread the problem has become, many parents and teachers still have some misconceptions about bullying.
|Myths & Facts about Bullying|
|MYTH: It’s only bullying if the child is physically hurt. Words can’t hurt.
FACT: Children have killed each other and committed suicide after being involved in verbal, relationship, or cyber-bullying. Words do hurt and they can have a devastating effect on the emotional wellbeing of a child or teen.
|MYTH: My child would never be a bully.
FACT: All kids make mistakes; it’s part of growing up. Parents who deny the possibility that their child is capable of being hurtful make it harder for bullies to get the help they need.
|MYTH: Bullies are simply bad people and should be expelled from school.
FACT: There are a lot of reasons why children bully. Some are bullied themselves, at home or elsewhere, others bully only when they feel stressed or overwhelmed.
|MYTH: Kids can be either bullies or victims, not both.
FACT: Kids can often change roles, going from victim to bully and back again. For example, a bully in fifth grade may be a victim when he moves to middle school, or a victim in the playground can take revenge and become the bully online.